Mary

wlyon · 02-01-2016, 02:26 PM

I put this in our local paper. Somehow it seems to help to write about her.

On December 30 2015 I lost my wife of 44 years to pancreatic cancer . Since then I have had time to sit, cry and think. Mary was my wife, my best friend and my best buddy. There was no one I had rather spend time with. We enjoyed each others company no matter what we were doing. We did most things together. Being with Mary was always fun ,except maybe shopping at Walmart. We had open communication between us. But after a few years you can communicate without many words. Argue? Of course we are human. But we agreed many years ago to never go to bed angry. We never did. Decisions were always made by discussing it with each other. I always thought maybe I was the boss but I knew deep down I was not. We did not need a boss. Also ,and I feel very important, we respected each other. Love and respect what a great combination.
If you do not have a relationship like this you are missing out on life's greatest pleasure. If you do have this ,realize how fortunate you are and enjoy.
Thank you Mary for 44 wonderful years. Miss you so much Babe. Love forever. Bill

Sergio Natali · 02-01-2016, 02:38 PM

Dear Bill
Reading your lines I've got my hearth full of sorrow and I feel some sort of knot at my throat for you, and Mary.
I wish I had the right words to say, but after all words are only words.
I think, I hope, with my wife Olga I've got something similar, in any case it would be nice if many couples in the World had such a special relationship as you and Mary had.

Dear friend I realize it must be hard, but try to be strong; I send you a prayer and a brotherly hug.

DavidJayUden · 02-01-2016, 02:38 PM

Bill;
Well written and descriptive beyond words. Thanks for keeping us in the loop and I'm glad you have found an outlet for your feelings.
dju

John Sabato · 02-01-2016, 03:16 PM

You are still in our prayers Bill, and will continue to be... Thanks for sharing your heart with us...

-John

kzullick · 02-01-2016, 08:31 PM

God Bless you Bill, I continue to pray for you everyday.
Kenny

mrerick · 02-02-2016, 11:12 AM

My thoughts continue to be with you, Bill, as you make this difficult adjustment.

A long term mutually supportive relationship like yours' is very special, and something many people never get to experience. Remember the best of times, and savor them!

Marc

G.T. · 02-02-2016, 12:21 PM

It is a terrible loss Bill, and I too am having a hard time writing this, but it seems as if a common thread runs thru this group, and it has nothing to do with pistols or collecting.. It is about a basic kindness and caring that seems to be a common virtue of this forum... We have shared tragedy together before, and it gives you a unique, but painful view of life and love lost.... I hope you can celebrate her life and memory, and remember the best of times, and find some comfort in those thoughts... I'm sure every one of us, on this forum, has you in their prayers and thoughts for the future.... Best to you Bill, til...lat'r....a very sad GT....

ithacaartist · 02-02-2016, 02:09 PM

Thank you, Bill, for sharing. Beautiful.

David

cirelaw · 02-02-2016, 05:16 PM

You placed her in all our hearts~ Thank You!

BogeyB · 02-04-2016, 09:16 PM

Bill,

Well said, very well said.

Take care,

Mike and Ruthie

padredan · 02-05-2016, 04:58 PM

Mr Bill, I did not know. I offer you my deepest condolences at the loss of your wife dear Mary. where there is much grief there is much love . grief can be described as, love not wanting to let go . again my condolences , and much respect . your friend Padre Dan

Don M · 02-06-2016, 10:47 AM

Bill, as painful as this is, I am happy for you that you had so many wonderful years with a wonderful person. God bless you both.

Douglas Jr. · 02-27-2016, 08:00 PM

Nice words. Simple and touching.

02-01-2016, 02:26 PM	#1
wlyon Lifer 2X Lifetime Forum Patron Join Date: May 2005 Location: Somewhere in Montana Posts: 2,652 Thanks: 3,210 Thanked 2,613 Times in 969 Posts	Mary I put this in our local paper. Somehow it seems to help to write about her. On December 30 2015 I lost my wife of 44 years to pancreatic cancer . Since then I have had time to sit, cry and think. Mary was my wife, my best friend and my best buddy. There was no one I had rather spend time with. We enjoyed each others company no matter what we were doing. We did most things together. Being with Mary was always fun ,except maybe shopping at Walmart. We had open communication between us. But after a few years you can communicate without many words. Argue? Of course we are human. But we agreed many years ago to never go to bed angry. We never did. Decisions were always made by discussing it with each other. I always thought maybe I was the boss but I knew deep down I was not. We did not need a boss. Also ,and I feel very important, we respected each other. Love and respect what a great combination. If you do not have a relationship like this you are missing out on life's greatest pleasure. If you do have this ,realize how fortunate you are and enjoy. Thank you Mary for 44 wonderful years. Miss you so much Babe. Love forever. Bill __________________ Bill Lyon

02-01-2016, 02:38 PM	#2
Sergio Natali User Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Somewhere in Northern Italy Posts: 2,646 Thanks: 1,087 Thanked 1,783 Times in 1,007 Posts	Dear Bill Reading your lines I've got my hearth full of sorrow and I feel some sort of knot at my throat for you, and Mary. I wish I had the right words to say, but after all words are only words. I think, I hope, with my wife Olga I've got something similar, in any case it would be nice if many couples in the World had such a special relationship as you and Mary had. Dear friend I realize it must be hard, but try to be strong; I send you a prayer and a brotherly hug. __________________ "Originality can't be restored and should be at the top of any collector's priority list.

02-01-2016, 03:16 PM	#4
John Sabato Lifer Lifetime Forum Patron Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: The Capital of the Free World Posts: 10,155 Thanks: 3,003 Thanked 2,308 Times in 1,098 Posts	You are still in our prayers Bill, and will continue to be... Thanks for sharing your heart with us... -John __________________ regards, -John S "...We hold these truths to be self-evident that ALL men are created EQUAL *and are endowed by their Creator* with certain UNALIENABLE* rights, and among these are life, LIBERTY, and the pursuit of happiness..."*

02-02-2016, 11:12 AM	#6
mrerick Super Moderator - Patron LugerForum Life Patron Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Eastern North Carolina, USA Posts: 3,919 Thanks: 1,377 Thanked 3,135 Times in 1,518 Posts	My thoughts continue to be with you, Bill, as you make this difficult adjustment. A long term mutually supportive relationship like yours' is very special, and something many people never get to experience. Remember the best of times, and savor them! Marc __________________ Igitur si vis pacem, para bellum - - Therefore if you want peace, prepare for war.

02-02-2016, 12:21 PM	#7
G.T. Lifer Lifetime Forum Patron Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Chandler Arizona Posts: 3,523 Thanks: 1,321 Thanked 3,707 Times in 1,012 Posts	My sincere condolences Bill...... It is a terrible loss Bill, and I too am having a hard time writing this, but it seems as if a common thread runs thru this group, and it has nothing to do with pistols or collecting.. It is about a basic kindness and caring that seems to be a common virtue of this forum... We have shared tragedy together before, and it gives you a unique, but painful view of life and love lost.... I hope you can celebrate her life and memory, and remember the best of times, and find some comfort in those thoughts... I'm sure every one of us, on this forum, has you in their prayers and thoughts for the future.... Best to you Bill, til...lat'r....a very sad GT....

02-01-2016, 02:38 PM	#3
DavidJayUden Patron LugerForum Patron Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 4,047 Thanks: 578 Thanked 1,414 Times in 887 Posts	Bill; Well written and descriptive beyond words. Thanks for keeping us in the loop and I'm glad you have found an outlet for your feelings. dju

02-01-2016, 08:31 PM	#5
kzullick Lifer Lifetime Forum Patron Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: East Berwick, Pennsylvania Posts: 236 Thanks: 681 Thanked 102 Times in 83 Posts	God Bless you Bill, I continue to pray for you everyday. Kenny

02-02-2016, 02:09 PM	#8
ithacaartist Twice a Lifer Lifetime Forum Patron Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Atop the highest hill in Schuyler County NY Posts: 3,368 Thanks: 7,432 Thanked 2,611 Times in 1,378 Posts	Thank you, Bill, for sharing. Beautiful. David __________________ "... Liberty is the seed and soil, the air and light, the dew and rain of progress, love and joy."-- Robert Greene Ingersoll 1894

02-02-2016, 05:16 PM	#9
cirelaw Lifer Lifetime Forum Patron Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: PORT ST LUCIE, FLORIDA Posts: 12,216 Thanks: 6,209 Thanked 4,138 Times in 2,176 Posts	You placed her in all our hearts~ Thank You!

02-04-2016, 09:16 PM	#10
BogeyB Lifer Lifetime Forum Patron Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Mc Donough, GA. Posts: 422 Thanks: 0 Thanked 227 Times in 99 Posts	Bill, Well said, very well said. Take care, Mike and Ruthie __________________ MAGA Always!! NRA Benifactor, GCA

02-05-2016, 04:58 PM	#11
padredan User Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: louisiana Now, but from the Rebublic of Texas Posts: 937 Thanks: 429 Thanked 316 Times in 182 Posts	Mr Bill, I did not know. I offer you my deepest condolences at the loss of your wife dear Mary. where there is much grief there is much love . grief can be described as, love not wanting to let go . again my condolences , and much respect . your friend Padre Dan __________________ In this world nothing is free, except the grace of God

02-06-2016, 10:47 AM	#12
Don M Patron LugerForum Patron Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Houston, TX Posts: 1,429 Thanks: 67 Thanked 292 Times in 191 Posts	Bill, as painful as this is, I am happy for you that you had so many wonderful years with a wonderful person. God bless you both. __________________ Regards, Don donmaus1@aol.com Author of History Writ in Steel: German Police Markings 1900-1936 http://www.historywritinsteel.com

02-27-2016, 08:00 PM	#13
Douglas Jr. User Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: South America Posts: 948 Thanks: 598 Thanked 584 Times in 254 Posts	Nice words. Simple and touching.