Goals....

tomaustin · 11-02-2020, 09:41 PM

"After you’ve been married awhile those vows start to take on new meaning. 'Til death do us part becomes a goal."

Major Tom · 11-03-2020, 08:19 AM

My wife of 31 years had a near death accident 4 years ago. To this day I'm still shaking thinking how close I came to losing her! She is doing much better now tho still has problems with pain and walking. I would absolutely dread the day she passes before me!

Edward Tinker · 11-03-2020, 10:34 AM

We've bumped heads over the years - but we've been married since 1982 - so we are kinda used to each other, most of the time.

We had a medical scare 15-16 years ago with a embolism in one lung, then 2 yrs ago also, she was hospitalized twice but things seem good right now.

pmanton · 11-03-2020, 11:13 AM

At 82 and 80 the death do us part thing seems to be right around the corner. I dread the thought of losing her.
Paul
Salome, AZ.

Vlim · 11-03-2020, 11:33 AM

The closing lines of Paradise by the Dashboard Light come to mind.

I swore, that I would love you to the end of time
So now I'm praying for the end of time
To hurry up and arrive
'Cause if I gotta spend another minute with you
I don't think that I can really survive
I'll never break my promise or forget my vow
But god only knows what I can do right now
I'm praying for the end of time
It's all that I can do
Praying for the end of time, so I can end my life with you

Norme · 11-03-2020, 12:13 PM

I've been married for 58 years, but with 2 different wives. Does that count?
Norm

Ron Wood · 11-03-2020, 01:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Norme

I've been married for 58 years, but with 2 different wives. Does that count?
Norm

Probably. I have been married to the same wife for 58 years.
Ron

P.S. I think Vlim's post sucks.

Heinz · 11-03-2020, 01:52 PM

Ron, 54 years for me and I agree about Vlim's post.

pauly · 11-03-2020, 04:11 PM

31 years, 4 children, two dogs, a cat and numerous other small critters. I don’t do laundry or bills, we don’t carry a balance or pay late fees. We have a good life, my Mrs played a huge part in getting there. I plan on dying first.

schutzen-jager · 11-03-2020, 04:44 PM

55 years next week -

Neil Young · 11-03-2020, 05:51 PM

I planned on dying first too, but it didn't work out that way. Sharon died almost eight years ago after 45.5 years of marriage. I miss her................

wlyon · 11-03-2020, 06:38 PM

Like Neil my wife of 44 years died 5 years ago. I could never imagine life without her. I still can't. Bill

pauly · 11-03-2020, 07:00 PM

I guess life can be cruel that way. My condolences Neil and Wlyon. ��

spangy · 11-04-2020, 01:35 PM

When my Halina passed away in 2017 my whole world collapsed and I very nearly went after her.
There is a HUGE empty part in my soul now, one which i know will never be filled, but i thank God for every second I was allowed with her.

Lyn Islaub · 11-04-2020, 05:57 PM

Met my lovely wife about 3 months after I got home from Viet Nam, moved in with each other the same day and got married 28 days later (had to wait for blood tests in those days). It's almost 52 years now and it seems to have rushed by rather quickly. She's been dogged with an incurable endocrine cancer for the last 18 years and is the bravest person I know. Damn I love her.

Eugen · 11-04-2020, 08:44 PM

These sobering discussions remind us all of our loved ones and to never take their presence in our lives for granted. My wife of 38 years died nine years ago. I was numb and lost for years. Eventually I met a widow. We recovered together. We are now on our third year of marriage. We miss our spouses, but life goes on. We enjoy our life together but are acutely aware of the temporal nature of a marriage. Understanding this serves to enrich our relationship and we do not take a single day for granted.

calibrator · 11-05-2020, 08:09 AM

I'm always awed by couples that stay married for 25+ years. I'm naturally a student of Human Nature, and wish I'd have pursued a career dealing in Aberrant/Criminal Psych, ... Fascinating.

As a child, I always thought "some day, ... I'll find the perfect one". Somewhere in this big world the 'Perfect One" waits, ... I'm just never gonna find her at my age anymore.

I was married once (1983) for 10 yrs. Good for the first 5, not much the last 5. I would have never asked for the divorce, as we had a 5 yr old Daughter. It was my Wife's idea, saying; "wouldn't it be nice to be with someone you loved ?". Her next comment was; "I thought that you were going to change over the years !". That statement IS all telling about the differences between men and women IMHO.

As a man, I want the person I fall in love with to stay as true to that initial character so my love will remain strong. Women on the other hand, (IMHO) see a man as malleable, changeable, adaptable somehow. We all change with time, some slower, some faster. I still wonder what I'm gonna be, ... when I grow up.

11-02-2020, 09:41 PM	#1
tomaustin Lifer X5 Lifetime Forum Patron Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: texas Posts: 708 Thanks: 87 Thanked 522 Times in 201 Posts	Goals.... "After you’ve been married awhile those vows start to take on new meaning. 'Til death do us part becomes a goal."

11-03-2020, 08:19 AM	#2
Major Tom User Join Date: Jan 2017 Location: S.E. Iowa Posts: 481 Thanks: 531 Thanked 226 Times in 123 Posts	My wife of 31 years had a near death accident 4 years ago. To this day I'm still shaking thinking how close I came to losing her! She is doing much better now tho still has problems with pain and walking. I would absolutely dread the day she passes before me! __________________ I Build Custom Pistol Boxes

11-03-2020, 05:51 PM	#11
Neil Young Lifer Lifetime Forum Patron Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Scottsboro, Alabama Posts: 540 Thanks: 546 Thanked 438 Times in 165 Posts	I planned on dying first too, but it didn't work out that way. Sharon died almost eight years ago after 45.5 years of marriage. I miss her................ __________________ Neil The hurrier I go the behinder I get. Sometimes it takes me all day to get nothing done.

11-03-2020, 06:38 PM	#12
wlyon Lifer 2X Lifetime Forum Patron Join Date: May 2005 Location: Somewhere in Montana Posts: 2,615 Thanks: 3,140 Thanked 2,522 Times in 940 Posts	Like Neil my wife of 44 years died 5 years ago. I could never imagine life without her. I still can't. Bill __________________ Bill Lyon

11-04-2020, 08:44 PM	#16
Eugen User Join Date: Apr 2016 Location: Newburgh,IN Posts: 763 Thanks: 367 Thanked 598 Times in 317 Posts	These sobering discussions remind us all of our loved ones and to never take their presence in our lives for granted. My wife of 38 years died nine years ago. I was numb and lost for years. Eventually I met a widow. We recovered together. We are now on our third year of marriage. We miss our spouses, but life goes on. We enjoy our life together but are acutely aware of the temporal nature of a marriage. Understanding this serves to enrich our relationship and we do not take a single day for granted. __________________ “God created war so that Americans would learn geography.” ― Mark Twain

11-03-2020, 10:34 AM	#3
Edward Tinker Super Moderator Eternal Lifer LugerForum Patron Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: North of Spokane, WA Posts: 15,911 Thanks: 1,986 Thanked 4,502 Times in 2,077 Posts	We've bumped heads over the years - but we've been married since 1982 - so we are kinda used to each other, most of the time. We had a medical scare 15-16 years ago with a embolism in one lung, then 2 yrs ago also, she was hospitalized twice but things seem good right now.

11-03-2020, 11:13 AM	#4
pmanton Patron LugerForum Patron Join Date: Apr 2018 Location: Indian Hills Airpark Salome, AZ Posts: 24 Thanks: 61 Thanked 33 Times in 11 Posts	At 82 and 80 the death do us part thing seems to be right around the corner. I dread the thought of losing her. Paul Salome, AZ.

11-03-2020, 11:33 AM	#5
Vlim Moderator Lifetime LugerForum Patron Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Europe Posts: 5,034 Thanks: 1,019 Thanked 3,882 Times in 1,186 Posts	The closing lines of Paradise by the Dashboard Light come to mind. I swore, that I would love you to the end of time So now I'm praying for the end of time To hurry up and arrive 'Cause if I gotta spend another minute with you I don't think that I can really survive I'll never break my promise or forget my vow But god only knows what I can do right now I'm praying for the end of time It's all that I can do Praying for the end of time, so I can end my life with you

11-03-2020, 12:13 PM	#6
Norme Always A Lifetime Forum Patron Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Colorado Posts: 2,414 Thanks: 224 Thanked 2,591 Times in 930 Posts	I've been married for 58 years, but with 2 different wives. Does that count? Norm

11-03-2020, 01:52 PM	#8
Heinz User Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Greenville SC Posts: 1,004 Thanks: 377 Thanked 410 Times in 180 Posts	Ron, 54 years for me and I agree about Vlim's post.

11-03-2020, 04:11 PM	#9
pauly User Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: SE Wisconsin Posts: 94 Thanks: 263 Thanked 45 Times in 25 Posts	31 years, 4 children, two dogs, a cat and numerous other small critters. I don’t do laundry or bills, we don’t carry a balance or pay late fees. We have a good life, my Mrs played a huge part in getting there. I plan on dying first.

11-03-2020, 04:44 PM	#10
schutzen-jager User Join Date: Aug 2020 Location: peoples republic of New Jersey Posts: 187 Thanks: 208 Thanked 187 Times in 86 Posts	55 years next week -

11-03-2020, 07:00 PM	#13
pauly User Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: SE Wisconsin Posts: 94 Thanks: 263 Thanked 45 Times in 25 Posts	I guess life can be cruel that way. My condolences Neil and Wlyon. ��

11-04-2020, 01:35 PM	#14
spangy Lifer Lifetime Forum Patron Join Date: Sep 2020 Location: Winnipeg, Canada Posts: 607 Thanks: 2,984 Thanked 1,047 Times in 422 Posts	When my Halina passed away in 2017 my whole world collapsed and I very nearly went after her. There is a HUGE empty part in my soul now, one which i know will never be filled, but i thank God for every second I was allowed with her.

11-04-2020, 05:57 PM	#15
Lyn Islaub Lifer Lifetime Forum Patron Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Phoenix, AZ Posts: 435 Thanks: 3 Thanked 152 Times in 72 Posts	Met my lovely wife about 3 months after I got home from Viet Nam, moved in with each other the same day and got married 28 days later (had to wait for blood tests in those days). It's almost 52 years now and it seems to have rushed by rather quickly. She's been dogged with an incurable endocrine cancer for the last 18 years and is the bravest person I know. Damn I love her.

11-05-2020, 08:09 AM	#17
calibrator User Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Cave Creek Posts: 315 Thanks: 55 Thanked 242 Times in 92 Posts	I'm always awed by couples that stay married for 25+ years. I'm naturally a student of Human Nature, and wish I'd have pursued a career dealing in Aberrant/Criminal Psych, ... Fascinating. As a child, I always thought "some day, ... I'll find the perfect one". Somewhere in this big world the 'Perfect One" waits, ... I'm just never gonna find her at my age anymore. I was married once (1983) for 10 yrs. Good for the first 5, not much the last 5. I would have never asked for the divorce, as we had a 5 yr old Daughter. It was my Wife's idea, saying; "wouldn't it be nice to be with someone you loved ?". Her next comment was; "I thought that you were going to change over the years !". That statement IS all telling about the differences between men and women IMHO. As a man, I want the person I fall in love with to stay as true to that initial character so my love will remain strong. Women on the other hand, (IMHO) see a man as malleable, changeable, adaptable somehow. We all change with time, some slower, some faster. I still wonder what I'm gonna be, ... when I grow up.