I Lost My Mom 25 Years Ago Today

cirelaw · 08-08-2014, 10:16 AM

I lost my mom 25 years ago today. She was 54. My father left us when I was 5 causing my mom to raise me by herself. Mom enrolled me in Mt Carmel elementary school in Bayonne NJ. Eight years of Polish nuns. Then 4 years of Jesuits in Marist high school and Seton Hall Universary. She died on August 8th 1979. I had made it through my first year of law school at Villlanova law school. A week before her death this photograph captured our love towards each other and the last time I saw her alive.. I spoke with her the night before and my last words were "I love You" A quater of a century later the hurt never seems to diminish! We take it for granted that they will always be there. Especially when they are only 54! I would love just one more thank you and a tight hug~I thank her for everything I am today!~~ Eric

John Sabato · 08-08-2014, 10:38 AM

Eric,

My Mother passed away the same month (on the 5th), and the SAME year.

...and you are absolutely correct, the hurt never seems to diminish. But I know, that I know, that I will see her again when my time here is over...

cirelaw · 08-08-2014, 10:42 AM

Both our moms are dancing polkas with the rest of her friends! Thank You and God Bless all our moms!

singleshotman · 08-08-2014, 12:07 PM

My father died on july 20. 1994. Its easy to rebember this date if you're a WW2 buff(my father fought the Japanese in WW2, also was on Soloman islands the same time as JFK, might have seen him) .That's the day the german general staff failed to blow up Hitler.

Sergio Natali · 08-08-2014, 01:58 PM

Mates,

I wanted to join you and tell that while my mother died eight years ago on the 21st of December, my father instead died of lung cancer in February 1989.
Now I can tell you thay they belonged to the WWII generation, that is to say that they were extremely serious people, generous but somehow frugal, my mum in particular was a bit of a Prussian sergeant major, especially with me... :-)
She died of alzheimer, and in her last days she wasn't even the shadow of what she used to be.
In one of the few moments of lucidity, with a knot in my throat I somehow apologised and told her that I wish I had been a nicer person.

Well she answered me saying: " Sergio, life starts tomorow"

Not many people know this.

Sergio

cirelaw · 08-08-2014, 02:59 PM

You were probobly a great son! You must give up the 'what ifs' or they will drive you crazy! Things happen that are beyond our control. The only medicine is love, kisses and hugs daily and a few prayers thrown in! PS Life continues every moment!

Sonofeugene · 08-10-2014, 03:04 PM

Actually, it's been 35 years. I know because my father died in '79 as well, also 54 years young.

cirelaw · 08-10-2014, 03:12 PM

Thank you Martin~~~ I never was good in math! Also sorry too for your loss. Parents are always hard and they never seem to get any easier~Eric

08-08-2014, 10:16 AM	#1
cirelaw Lifer Lifetime Forum Patron Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: PORT ST LUCIE, FLORIDA Posts: 12,216 Thanks: 6,209 Thanked 4,135 Times in 2,174 Posts	I Lost My Mom 25 Years Ago Today I lost my mom 25 years ago today. She was 54. My father left us when I was 5 causing my mom to raise me by herself. Mom enrolled me in Mt Carmel elementary school in Bayonne NJ. Eight years of Polish nuns. Then 4 years of Jesuits in Marist high school and Seton Hall Universary. She died on August 8th 1979. I had made it through my first year of law school at Villlanova law school. A week before her death this photograph captured our love towards each other and the last time I saw her alive.. I spoke with her the night before and my last words were "I love You" A quater of a century later the hurt never seems to diminish! We take it for granted that they will always be there. Especially when they are only 54! I would love just one more thank you and a tight hug~I thank her for everything I am today!~~ Eric Attached Thumbnails

08-08-2014, 10:38 AM	#2
John Sabato Lifer Lifetime Forum Patron Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: The Capital of the Free World Posts: 10,154 Thanks: 3,003 Thanked 2,306 Times in 1,097 Posts	Eric, My Mother passed away the same month (on the 5th), and the SAME year. ...and you are absolutely correct, the hurt never seems to diminish. But I know, that I know, that I will see her again when my time here is over... __________________ regards, -John S "...We hold these truths to be self-evident that ALL men are created EQUAL *and are endowed by their Creator* with certain UNALIENABLE* rights, and among these are life, LIBERTY, and the pursuit of happiness..."*

08-08-2014, 01:58 PM	#5
Sergio Natali User Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Somewhere in Northern Italy Posts: 2,646 Thanks: 1,082 Thanked 1,783 Times in 1,007 Posts	Mates, I wanted to join you and tell that while my mother died eight years ago on the 21st of December, my father instead died of lung cancer in February 1989. Now I can tell you thay they belonged to the WWII generation, that is to say that they were extremely serious people, generous but somehow frugal, my mum in particular was a bit of a Prussian sergeant major, especially with me... :-) She died of alzheimer, and in her last days she wasn't even the shadow of what she used to be. In one of the few moments of lucidity, with a knot in my throat I somehow apologised and told her that I wish I had been a nicer person. Well she answered me saying: " Sergio, life starts tomorow" Not many people know this. Sergio __________________ "Originality can't be restored and should be at the top of any collector's priority list.

08-08-2014, 10:42 AM	#3
cirelaw Lifer Lifetime Forum Patron Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: PORT ST LUCIE, FLORIDA Posts: 12,216 Thanks: 6,209 Thanked 4,135 Times in 2,174 Posts	Both our moms are dancing polkas with the rest of her friends! Thank You and God Bless all our moms!

08-08-2014, 12:07 PM	#4
singleshotman User Join Date: Dec 2012 Posts: 44 Thanks: 0 Thanked 9 Times in 6 Posts	My father died on july 20. 1994. Its easy to rebember this date if you're a WW2 buff(my father fought the Japanese in WW2, also was on Soloman islands the same time as JFK, might have seen him) .That's the day the german general staff failed to blow up Hitler.

08-08-2014, 02:59 PM	#6
cirelaw Lifer Lifetime Forum Patron Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: PORT ST LUCIE, FLORIDA Posts: 12,216 Thanks: 6,209 Thanked 4,135 Times in 2,174 Posts	You were probobly a great son! You must give up the 'what ifs' or they will drive you crazy! Things happen that are beyond our control. The only medicine is love, kisses and hugs daily and a few prayers thrown in! PS Life continues every moment!

08-10-2014, 03:04 PM	#7
Sonofeugene User Join Date: Oct 2013 Posts: 157 Thanks: 1 Thanked 118 Times in 64 Posts	Actually, it's been 35 years. I know because my father died in '79 as well, also 54 years young.

08-10-2014, 03:12 PM	#8
cirelaw Lifer Lifetime Forum Patron Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: PORT ST LUCIE, FLORIDA Posts: 12,216 Thanks: 6,209 Thanked 4,135 Times in 2,174 Posts	Thank you Martin~~~ I never was good in math! Also sorry too for your loss. Parents are always hard and they never seem to get any easier~Eric