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Originally posted by Ron Smith
Chris,
I didn't have to go through this with my Dad. He passed 23 years ago. However, I have been dealing with my Mom who suffers from dementia for the last 7 years. I finally sought professional advice. I was told that this is the point that the "parent - child" roles begin to reverse. You have to take the parental role.
It is very difficult to do, but you have to do what is safest and best for them. Even under protest and at the cost of hurting their feelings. There really aren't any options. It progresses very rapidly and unexpectedly. It is very emotional and painful for all concerned.
Also, be prepared for the criticism and accusations from outsiders. Those who will assume you are doing it out of greed for your Father's possessions. Until they have to deal with it on a personal basis, you won't be able to convince them otherwise.
Best of Luck..
Ron
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Ron nailed it! I underlined a couple of points that are the essence of the problem. It is important to remeber that this is one of the
"ironies of life" (a job for which you should be awarded medals will garner only suspicion and ill will). It's not always that bad, but it usually is.
YOUR sanity is of paramount concern when dealing with this type of problem. Stay mentally strong with the knowledge that you're doing the right thing. Good Luck.
Jack