Mary
 

I am sure people are tired of hearing me talk about my wife Mary. But it seems to help some to tell people about her/us. I put this in our local paper this week:
My wonderful wife Mary has been gone for four months. Some how it seems to help to write about her/us.

Many times I feel like going up on a roof in Stevensville and yelling to everyone what a special lady I was married to. Do not be alarmed that won't happen. Probably.

When you lose a spouse you have an initial feeling of complete despair. That which you cherished is gone and will not be coming back. And of course the memories begin.

I remember the Alaska cruise, the many RV campouts with friends, the many vacations, going to the coast, trips back East to see relatives , The train trip to Texas. And many more major events. All great memories.

However what I remember most are the simple things we did together. Driving up Burnt Fork to see the elk, going to Valley Drug for ice cream, going out to dinner/breakfast, Just sitting close together in the family room reading, holding hands in church (which we did frequently), reaching out in the night to see if she was alright, eating together, motorcycle rides, Mary's Sweet Adeline years, I could go on and on. All wonderful memories. But memories are also bittersweet. You realize none of this will ever happen again. But sure are thankful they did.

Enjoy your lives together every day. Spend as much time together as you can.

I thank our many Stevensville friends. Also my Forum friends. You have been a big comfort. But especially thank you Mary for the wonderful memories. As painful as they can be at times, I cherish each and every one. When I found you I hit the jackpot. You were the best !!
Love you Babe. Miss you so much.
Thanks for listening.
Bill

I know this does not seem to be much consolation or even helpful but I think you are a very fortunate man to have been married to such a wonderful woman. God bless you both.

Bill,

I know full well what you are going through, as I have been down that same road. Talking about it most definitely does help....some. All I can tell you is that time is a great healer, and keep your friends and God close to you. Be well.

I'm not tired of hearing it. You said it beautifully. I feel the same way about my dearly departed.

Always keep her memory alive, Bill!

bill, she was a wonderful woman

Bill, I'm happy to hear about your memories of Mary.

You are blessed to have that relationship in your life. Not everyone finds that, and it's both unique to your relationship and special.

I too have had my losses and memories. Isn't it wonderful that the really good things stay with you. Not necessarily the momentous things, but the simple good of it all.

If you feel ready to talk about someday, I'd love to know how you met, and how you knew it was "right"... There is magic in that!

Marc

Bill, I know that I am not alone when I say that sharing my friends burdens never becomes too heavy. You and Mary both are constantly on my mind. Her memory will live as long as those who knew her, or knew of her through you, are breathing. We are always available for "listening"...

kind regards, -John

I enjoy visiting the Luger forums but at times they seem a bit too serious in focusing on just the firearms. Not only are threads like this OK, but to me are a welcome aspect of how we can communicate on topics besides the one that brought us here initially.

One of the definitions of "forum" is a public meeting place for open discussion - I think the perfect place to share the experience of a wonderful marriage and many pleasant years with your spouse.

Bill,
I have no adequate words, just warm feelings and total understanding. Hang on my friend...time heals but it does so slowly.
Ron

Goddess Bless, and all the rest. Knowing how I live my wife of 32 years, I can empathize.

God Bless you Bill. You and Mary were quite the team. I understand and appreciate you sharing your thoughts with us. It is a reminder to all to chedrish every second of every day that we have with our loved ones. Thank you Sir.

Bill, my wife of 38 years died about five years ago. I understand somewhat your pain and the 'widower journey' you are traveling.

I especially know the wild cycles of grief and sense of loss you must be experiencing. I began to recover when I started to date a widow. She understood what I was going through, even though each person's journey is unique. We helped each other.

I eventually found my way out of the woods and now life is just as good for me as ever.

May God bless you as you recover from your loss.

Bill,

You talk about your beloved Mary whenever you like. We are a family here. When one members grieves or dispairs, we all do!

God Bless,
Mike